Ah, the joys of pegging. Whether you’re a newcomer to the world of prostate pleasure, or you’re old hat and want to get your partner in on the action, this guide should help you peg or get pegged safely and comfortably.
Pegging is typically defined as the action of having a woman penetrate a man’s anus using a strap-on dildo. Strap-ons can, of course, be used by anyone of any gender or sexuality. While much of the colloquial history of pegging just refers to men and women, there’s no reason why these tips can’t extend to your and your partner’s use of a strap-on.
History
A series of instructional videos called Bend Over Boyfriend were introduced in the U.S. in 1998 to teach men and women proper pegging techniques– an option that many had not even considered before. In fact, no one even knew what to call it! While the act is undoubtedly ancient, the name is actually a recent invention. Yes, up until 2001, there was no word for a woman using a strap-on on a man. Sex columnist Dan Savage is to thank for that one.
Now, pegging is a pretty popular genre of adult film and adult stores around the U.S. are expanding their strap-on stocks to meet an ever-increasing demand.
Know what you’re getting into
A butthole. You’re getting into a butthole.
All jokes aside, as pleasurable as the butthole can be, it also serves
another very important purpose: waste management. The chances of there being poop are very high, no matter how thoroughly you douche. Come to terms with this with your partner and there shouldn’t be any surprises.
Remember, when you first put something into your butt, it may feel like you have to poop. That is a natural feeling– the way your brain knows that you need to head to the bathroom is from a feeling of fullness in your anus. If it makes you uncomfortable, take your toy out and head to the bathroom. Better get it out and have to clean up all over again than having to suffer from Sudden Poop Explosion Disease with your partner present.
Pick a size
As we all know, dildos come in a wide variety of sizes. While picking the one that’s best for your partner, consider the other toys, if they have them, that they use anally. Someone who uses the Admiral Advanced Curved Probe probably isn’t going to take too kindly to all 12 inches of Large Cock Plug Black.
If your partner is not yet used to the world of anal, have them start with something small. Even a finger will do. Anal is not something that’s accomplished completely in one night. If it is, you’re doing it wrong and you’re going to hurt yourself or your partner. You may not be able to start with the strap-ons that we sell simply because they may be too big, so try with a prostate stimulator, like our Aneros MGX Prostate Massager, first to get that incredible prostate massage. That way, you will know what to expect when you move up to bigger toys.
Shape up!
You may also want to consider the shape. There is a reason that most anal toys have that k
ind of interesting, whimsical shape. Unlike the vaginal canal which is only 4-6 inches deep, the anal canal extends to the colon. The unique shape of many anal toys prevents them from getting lost in there.
With a strap on, since the dildo is connected to something, this is not as much of an issue. So, if you’re become more comfortable to differently shaped toys and move on to one that’s shaped more like a penis, you may have some discomfort.
Our Me2 Rumbler Strap On Harness comes with a removable (and vibrating!) dildo with clitoral stimulating numbs for the wearer– so if you find the toy doesn’t quite work, you can strap on your own favorite toy and still use the harness.
Get clean and stay safe
Anytime you’re going around to the back door, it’s always good to expect poop to be home. Even if you’re not using a flesh and blood body part to delve into that cavern, there’s still a good chance that you can catch or spread infection. The anus, as we’ve mentioned many times before, it much more sensitive than the vagina and can’t quite take the same beating.
Lubing up is also a great way to prevent introducing harmful bacteria into the bloodstream. With enough lube, you won’t have to worry about tearing your anus during vigorous pegging sessions– which not only opens you up for potential STDs, but can introduce harmful infections.
We always recommend silicone lube for all back door play. The anus’ job is to absorb water, so water-based lubes can dry up easily and become tacky. Silicone is essential, and even better, it won’t ruin condoms. We’re big fans of Sliquid Silver for all butt-related activities.Many anal lubes come with numbing agents, but we really don’t recommend using them. An important rule in all sorts of sex is this:
If your body is hurting, it’s trying to tell you something: STOP!
This isn’t to rail against those who enjoy pain as part of their sexual experience, but if you’re new to something and it’s hurting, it’s a good time to stop and reassess before deciding if you want to push that pain further.
Keeping your toys clean
Particularly during pegging, it’s very easy to pass and transmit STDs and STIs, yes, even via toy. The butt carries a lot of bacteria and even a thorough douching may not clean it all out. Consider what your toy is made of and buy an appropriate toy cleaner.
Emotional Care
There’s a great misconception about pegging among many heterosexual males: being on the receiving end of anal sex does not make you gay. There is only one thing that makes you gay, and that is if you are exclusively attracted to people of the same gender as yourself.
Being pegged not only doesn’t make you gay, but it also doesn’t feminize you– although some men do enjoy being dominated in this way. As with any type of roleplaying, always perform after care to make sure all parties are comfortable and feel safe about what they just experienced.
Pegging can unlock a lot more in your relationship(s) than you may think possible. For one, it’s a great way for a man who may normally be dominant to feel how it is to have someone else in control. It may even teach them a lot about how to pleasure their partner more back when they’re on the giving end. Many couples find that pegging brings them closer than ever before.
Make sure you communicate with your partner before, during, and after pegging to make sure they’re doing alright. This goes for both partners, as some women may feel uncomfortable or uneasy about using a strap-on on their partner.
