The SpicyGear Guide
A Buyer’s Guide to Butt Stuff
Updated: July 2, 2026
This guide is for anyone with a little experience who’s ready to go deeper – literally. Brand new to it? Start with our Beginner’s Buying Guide to Anal Plugs first, then come back. Anal toys work for every body and every pairing; the nerve endings they play with don’t care about gender.
Assuming you know the basics, here’s the fun part: there’s a huge world of anal play out there, and after 25+ years in this business we’ve tried more of it than most. Below we break down the four main types of anal toys – what each does and who it’s for – then hand you our staff-pick favorite in every category.
Two non-negotiables for all of it: go slow with plenty of water-based lube (anal tissue doesn’t self-lubricate), and clean every toy with a proper toy cleaner before and after. Now, the good stuff.
Butt Plugs
The on-ramp to anal play, and the most popular type for a reason. A plug is inserted and held in place by a flared base or handle – that base keeps everything safe and easy to remove. Past that they run the full range: every size, shape, and texture, some that vibrate, some that don’t, a few that even inflate. For women, a plug adds pressure against the vaginal wall for a fuller feeling. For anyone with a prostate, it delivers steady pressure right where the P-spot lives.
Glas Amethyst Rain Butt Plug
Hand-finished glass at a confident 3.2 insertable inches, with a wide base that keeps things safe and steady. A quick dip in warm or cool water turns one toy into two sensations – just keep the extremes gentle. Fracture-resistant, hypoallergenic, and rinses clean in seconds.
Buy the Amethyst Rain
Cloud 9 Gems Anal Plug – Large
Not shy about the “Large” – 3.75 insertable inches and a generous 1.65-inch diameter. Stainless steel, so it carries real weight, and that heft is the point: a heavy, full feeling you notice with every move, plus it holds temperature. Flared base with a multi-colored gem.
Buy the Gems Plug
Butt Quiver Black
Starter-sized doesn’t mean tame. A slim 3-inch silicone plug built around Rocks Off’s famous bullet, with 7 vibrating speeds and a tapered, angled tip that slides in easy and lands on the prostate. Waterproof, battery included, and it ships in a little satin keepsake bag.
Buy the Butt QuiverAnal Beads
A string of graduated spheres – smallest at the tip, largest near the base – inserted one at a time. The trick is in the removal: pulled out slowly, ideally right as climax hits, each bead passing back through the tightly-packed nerve endings is its own little wave. That’s what makes beads a couples favorite. A good set always has a ring or handle so nothing goes further than you intend.
Platinum Silicone 10 Anal Beads
Ten silicone beads that step up gradually in size, so you set the pace and go only as far as feels right. The UltraSilk silicone is genuinely silky and warms to your body, and a simple pull ring means easy, controlled removal. No bells, no batteries – the basics done right. The honest starting point for beads.
Buy the Anal BeadsAnal Dildos
These bring the one thing plugs and beads don’t: firmness you can steer. That comes in two flavors – a flexible dildo for thrusting (solo, with a partner, or in a harness for pegging), or a rigid glass piece for steady, targeted pressure and temperature play. Either way, one rule is non-negotiable: an anal dildo must have a flared base to prevent over-insertion. Every anal toy can go vaginal, but not every vaginal toy is safe the other way – the base is exactly why.
Icicles No. 75 Glass Heart Dildo
Hand-blown borosilicate glass with a graduated tip that eases you open and a heart-shaped flared base that keeps everything safe. Glass is the move for temperature play – warm it for cozy fullness or chill it for a cool rush. Firm, non-porous, easy to clean, anal-safe thanks to that base, and just as happy vaginally.
Buy the Icicles No. 75
Prostate Toys
Every butt plug brushes the prostate; prostate toys are built to find it. The prostate sits a couple inches in, toward the front, and responds to pressure, vibration, and massage – think of it as the male G-spot, and our guide to prostate massage digs in deeper. Warm up first, then let the toy do the aiming. The payoff is a fuller, deeper, longer climax than most people expect their first time.
Alpha Pro 10x P-Massage
A tapered shape with 10 vibration patterns and a moving-bead tip that works the canal and the prostate at once – plus a wireless remote you can run yourself or hand to a partner. Waterproof and hands-free. A lot of toy for the money.
Buy the Alpha Pro
Ultimate P-Spot Milker
The splurge, and worth it. A fully automated milker: the curved tip strokes your prostate in a slow “come hither” while the base rocks against the perineum, hands-free, with 9 vibration patterns on top. Set it, settle in, and let it do the work.
Buy the P-Spot Milker
Platinum Silicone Rocket Plug
A thick, girthy silicone plug – a real 2″ stretch – made to be worn while he’s penetrating his partner, so the fullness and prostate pressure heighten every stroke for him. Non-vibrating, body-safe, and ridged for extra sensation. Work up to the size and use plenty of lube.
Buy the Rocket PlugTake Your Time
You’ve done the reading, you know what you want, and the only thing left is to choose. Picture it: unhurried, plenty of good lube, the warm weight of something settling exactly where it should while the rest of the world goes quiet. No rush, no wrong pace – just you, going only as far as feels incredible. Whichever one you’re still thinking about? That’s the one.
Why Shop With Us
Family-run since 1996, and still choosing every toy on this list ourselves. Discreet shipping and billing on every order, free over $75, and real humans on the other end if you’d rather ask than Google. We’ve spent 25+ years figuring out what’s worth your money – this list is where we landed.