We’re a married couple who happen to run a sex toy shop – so “what are the best sex toys for couples?” might be the question we answer most. The honest truth: the best one is whichever gets the two of you playing together. To make that easier, we hand-picked our favorites across every style and budget, from a $7 blindfold to a hands-free app vibrator you can pass control of across the room (or across the country).
Every pick below is body-safe, easy to use, and chosen because real couples keep coming back for it. And every order ships in a plain, unmarked box, so your bedroom stays your business.
Our Top Picks at a Glance
- Best overall couples vibrator: Satisfyer Double Joy (worn during sex, app-controlled)
- Best first toy for couples: a vibrating cock ring
- Best for long-distance: an app-controlled vibrator
- Best powerhouse: the Magic Wand
- Best for trying pegging: a beginner strap-on set
- Best for adventurous couples: a sex swing
- Best easy intro to kink: a bondage starter kit or a satin blindfold
Best Overall Couples Vibrator: Satisfyer Double Joy
If you buy one toy made specifically for two, make it this one. The Satisfyer Double Joy is a flexible, wearable vibrator she can keep in during penetration, so it buzzes against her clit while he feels the vibrations too. The free app adds remote and long-distance control, plus custom patterns you can build together. It’s waterproof, rechargeable, and around $45 – an easy yes.
Best for: couples who want one shared toy that works during sex, not just before.
Best First Toy for Couples: A Vibrating Cock Ring
If you’re brand new to shopping together, start here. A vibrating cock ring slips on in seconds, helps him stay firmer for longer, and the built-in motor buzzes right where she wants it during intercourse – so you both feel the upgrade with zero learning curve. They’re affordable and low-pressure, which is exactly why they’re our most popular couples starter. Browse our Vibrating Cock Rings to find one.
Best for: first-timers who want maximum payoff for minimum effort.
Best for Long-Distance & App Play
When you’re apart, an app-controlled toy keeps you connected. The Satisfyer Love Triangle pairs with its app for control from anywhere, and our Remote Control Vibrators collection is full of app- and remote-driven options – hand your partner the controls at dinner, or let them tease you from another time zone.
Best for: long-distance couples, and anyone who loves handing over control.
Best Powerhouse: The Magic Wand
Nothing matches a wand for deep, rumbly, broad stimulation, and the Magic Wand is the legend for a reason – it’s a couples favorite for warm-up, foreplay, and finishing together. Want the same power in a smaller, travel-friendly size? The Magic Wand Mini is the value pick. Either way, see the full Magic Wands lineup.
Best for: couples who want serious, reliable power they’ll use for years.
Best Strap-On for Beginners
Curious about pegging or swapping roles? The All American Strap-On Harness + Curved Dildo is a complete, beginner-friendly set – adjustable harness, body-safe dong, ready to go out of the box at a gentle size. When you’re ready for more, explore Pegging Toys and Strap-On Dildos.
Best for: couples trying pegging or strap-on play for the first time.
Best for Adventurous Couples: A Sex Swing
Ready to change things up – literally? The Fetish Fantasy Swing takes weight off, opens up positions that are tough to hold otherwise, and is easier to set up than you’d think. It’s the gateway to our full Sex Swings & Sex Machines collection.
Best for: couples who want to explore new positions and a little weightless fun.
Best Wearable: Vibrating Panties
For thrilling, hideable play out and about, a remote vibrating panty lets your partner run the show while you keep a straight face at dinner. The Lock-n-Play Remote Panty Teaser is a discreet, rechargeable favorite. See more in Vibrating Panties.
Best for: couples who love a public-but-private secret.
Best Easy Intro to Kink
You don’t need a dungeon to add a little edge. A simple Satin Blindfold (under $10) heightens every other sensation and is the single easiest way to try something new. When you want the full experience, the Intermediate Bondage Kit for Couples bundles cuffs, restraints, and more, and our Bondage, Fetish & Kink Kits cover every comfort level.
Best for: couples dipping a toe into sensory play and light bondage.
Best Just-for-Fun Pick
Want a toy and a keepsake? The Clone-a-Pussy Kit lets you mold a body-safe replica together – equal parts playful project and memento. It’s a perennial date-night-in hit.
How to Choose Sex Toys as a Couple
Four quick questions make this easy:
- Who’s it for? Him, her, or both – many of the picks above (cock rings, the Double Joy) are designed for shared use.
- Vibration, suction, or motion? Most couples start with vibration; air-suction and swings come later.
- How adventurous? Be honest about your comfort level and start one notch easier than you think.
- Practical stuff: rechargeable, waterproof, and quiet are all worth prioritizing.
How to Bring It Up With Your Partner
Keep it light and curious, not loaded. Try “I saw something I think we’d both have fun with – can I show you?” Shopping together is half the fun: scroll a category side by side, each pick one thing that catches your eye, and make it a date rather than a negotiation. There’s no wrong answer, only what sounds fun to the two of you.
Lube, Care & Discreet Shipping
Use a water-based lubricant with silicone toys, clean everything with warm water and a toy cleaner before and after use, and let it dry fully before storing. And every SpicyGear order ships in a plain, unmarked box with discreet billing – no logos, no catalog, no hints. We’ve shipped privately since 1996.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the best sex toy for couples to start with?
A vibrating cock ring or the Satisfyer Double Joy. Both are affordable, easy to use, and designed for shared pleasure during sex – the lowest-pressure way to start.
What are the best couples toys for long-distance relationships?
App-controlled vibrators like the Satisfyer Double Joy, which your partner can operate from anywhere through the app. Our Remote Control Vibrators collection has more options.
Are couples sex toys good for beginners?
Absolutely. Cock rings, bullet vibes, and a simple blindfold are beginner-friendly and inexpensive, so you can explore without overcommitting.
Is shipping really discreet?
Yes – everything ships in a plain, unmarked box with discreet billing on your statement.
Ready to Play?
Pick one thing that made you both smile, clear a little time together, and let your new toy do some of the work. Browse the full Sex Toys for Couples collection to keep exploring – we’re always here if you have questions.